It’s no secret that I think evangelism is a good thing! I’ve been thinking about the message that was given at church on Sunday by our new vicar, Iain. He raised some good points that I think are worth discussion.
Iain is currently walking through a series on the book UnChristian; it talks about how non-Christians perceive Christians today.
Iain started off by saying (and this is my paraphrase) that he hopes his life will be one that reflects Christ’s. We should aim to have our lives reflect his. This reminded me of some things that Roger Hershey spoke of at our student conference earlier in the year. One of Roger’s sons, Brett, died a few years ago, and at his funeral, one of his friends said something to the effect of “I’m not a Christian yet, but if there’s one thing to be said about Brett, it’s that he wanted everyone to know the Jesus Christ that he knew.” I hope that this will be true of my life!
Iain talked about how there are a range of different perspectives that people have about Christians/Christianity, from those who are closed off to it, to those who are cautiously open. However, according to research in UnChristian, 70% of those 16-30 years old think Christians are too focused on conversion, and don’t genuinely care about them.
This is certainly a provocative statement, but to be honest, I’m not really surprised by it. When I talk to people on campus, I hear stories of how Christians have tried to force the gospel on people, or bad experiences people have had with Christians in their lives. Often, a person has heard how their friends perceive Christians, and their perception becomes a reality to them (Iain mentioned this as well).
I do think that we need to be intentional about sharing our faith. So how do we do that when non-Christians perceive us in this way?
I don’t pretend to have all the answers about how to solve this problem, but I do have a few ideas:
- Be prepared to have a conversation when you talk about spiritual things with someone. Having a conversation means it’s a two-way event, and that involves listening. I’m not trying to blow my own trumpet in any way here, but I’ve had people say to me “Thanks for taking the time to listen to what I had to say when you shared with me.” I hope that this is something I can always do.
- It’s OK if you have a spiritual conversation with someone, and don’t get to share the entire gospel. Whether you’re using a tract of some sort with a stranger, sharing your testimony with a friend, or talking to a group of people, it’s good to get them sharing their thoughts. If the person you’re talking to walks away from the conversation with a positive experience, then the door is potentially open for another conversation in future. Not everyone is ready to receive Christ the first time you meet them.
- Be prepared to say sorry. If you talk to someone and they’ve had a bad experience in the past with a Christian (or even think they have), then I believe it’s OK to say “I’m sorry for your past experience, and any pain we as Christians have caused you.” The fact that it wasn’t your personal fault doesn’t really matter to them at this point.
- I really like what Bill Bright said about sharing the gospel. “Successful witnessing is taking the initiative to share the gospel in the power of the Holy Spirit, and leaving the results up to God.” I know for some of you this is like preaching to the choir, but when you leave the results up to God, you don’t have to worry about converting someone, because you know that you can’t! I honestly believe that if we were all able to live this out all the time, then non-Christians wouldn’t have many of the perceptions which they have about us now.
Iain challenged us to look for a “Truly prophetic imagination to see and express the alternative reality we seek to live by.” For me, this means I need to rely on God’s Spirit to help me live in a way that honours him, especially when it comes to non-Christians, as the way I live represents Christ to them.
What are your thoughts or experiences on this?